INTRODUCTION. Failure maybe encountered in life through various endeavors that may include our businesses, careers or even social events. On the part of failure in business in the future or even at present, several factors maybe responsible, such as lack of capital or adequate funding, retaining an inadequate management team, a faulty infrastructure or business model, and an unsuccessful marketing initiative. When it comes to failure in life, one of the most crucial reasons that make people fail is giving up too soon. There is also the issue of obsession with money too. If you build your life around the accumulation of money, it may lead to misery rather than happiness. To avoid this, you should build your life around relationships, community and serving others. Surely, if you do this selfless service, you will eventually benefit personally much more than you can easily explain. Serving others is capable of building you in more ways than you can imagine; it gives you personality and open up innumerable doors to usher in success now and in the future too. Many people fail basically due to the lack of self respect and self worth. People who have low self confidence are regularly trying to find themselves rather than creating the sort of person they want to become. Do not label yourself unduly. That you have failed does not make you a failure until you stop trying. Additionally, people fail in the future mostly when they don't understand the value of time. Time management skills, learning how to say no and knowing what commitments to undertake is a step towards great achievement in any aspect of your lives now and in the future. If you study the reasons for failure, you will definitely come to terms with why people fail in their futures. WHAT SHOULD YOU DO IF YOU FAIL REPEATEDLY? There are very impressive steps to take if you fail repeatedly, in order to prevent any future failure and eventual frustration, such as: (1). First and most importantly, just accept how you may feel (2). Remember that you are not a failure simply because you have had a minor setback, which is an integral part of life. (3). Do always be constructive and make sure to learn from the situation at hand. (4). Always remind yourself that anyone who wants to do things of value in life should expect to fail. (5). Allow it out into the light. (6). Ensure that you find inspiration and support from your world. Now, we will devote time and effort towards discussing those factors which can make us to fail in the future. Popular celebrities have at different times shared how they felt before becoming what they are today. If they had not persevered, the story would have been different today. For instance, Michael Jordan once said, ' I accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can't accept not trying.' Samuel Beckett on his part said, 'Ever tried, ever failed. Try again. Fail again. Fail better.' Finally, another person, C S. Lewis owned up that: 'Failures are finger posts on the road to achievement. You can make a mistake today, have setbacks or you simply fail. Though the feeling is no fun, but you can't avoid that either, unless you avoid trying anything at all.' Therefore, what you really need is a smart and self-kind way to handle such nasty situations, instead of allowing them to lead to vicious self recriminations, which will eventually drag you down into negativity for a long time. Avoid the following habits if you care to safeguard the future, your tomorrow. (1). Always accept how you feel. Obviously it will pain if you have just failed, sometimes even very severely and at other times just a little bit. That is okay in itself, but never try to push it away by distracting yourself or by trying to push the responsibility onto others, especially if you know deep down that it is indeed your fault, partially or fully and nobody else's. Additionally, do not mask it with just a smile, instead accept the situation as it is, let it hurt for a while instead of trying to reject it all and to keep it away. If you accept it, it will go faster than you think, and in the long run, it will become less painful to process whatever has happened for the benefit of future successes. Rejecting them, will only make the feelings pop up every so often at unexpected times later on, and can also make you feel moody, pessimistic, angry or sad, feelings which will definitely affect your plans for the future. (2). Do not forget that you are not a failure just because you have tripped a few times, it is only natural to trip. If you allow yourself to have the feeling or belief of being a failure, your future is in jeopardy. Whatever setback you have had, it is very easy to start thinking that you will always keep failing in that endeavor. You can easily start thinking that you are indeed a failure. Do not fall for such destructive emotions, because they are capable of truncating your future success and happiness. Rather than doing so, remind yourself that: * Failing today does not make you a failure tomorrow or the next time you try. * Any failure you have experienced will not last for the rest of your life, if you keep moving forward and taking the necessary actions to counter it. Keep learning and failure won't be able to label you. (3). Do be constructive and learn from the situation you have found yourself. Try to see it as a valuable feedback and something you can use to improve rather than a big blow and setback. Ask yourself some pertinent questions anytime you fail, such as: what you have learnt from the experience of failure, how do you adjust yourself to prevent recurrence and do better in the future, what should you do differently now as against before and so on. Be honest with yourself on the answers to these questions and be constructive throughout. In the end, your future will be effectively safeguarded. (4). Never forget that whoever wants to do something of value in the future must fail at one time or the other. Often, we hear only about the success of others and not what it took to achieve them. The roads to success are replete with thorns and obstacles, and if you refrain from taking them on, the future is indeed going to be jeopardized. Again, Michael Jordan once said, ' I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times I've been trusted to take the game's winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed'. So, never ever throw in the towel in a gesture of defeat. Never. (5). Let it out into the light. This is an effective way to handle the emotional fallout and thoughts that come with failure to not keep it all bottled up inside. Let it out into the light by talking it over with someone close to you. Venting it out with someone else while they only listen can effectively sort things out for you, help you to accept what has happened rather than pushing it away and release that inner pressure. A conversation with another person will enable you to see things from another perspective, which is good and will assist in future happiness and success. (6). Find inspiration and support from your own world. Again, even in this situation, discussing your issue with someone else can be extremely helpful to you and your future success too. Learn from someone or people who have been where you are now, tap from their experiences, and diligently study how they handled setbacks. Get to know how they maintained being motivated. (7). Move forward again, so that you don't get stuck in mulling the situation over for too long than is healthy. Process and accept the situation. This is a promotion to future prospects and success. Though it is easy to get stuck in thought, but learn to move on. At least, we know that setbacks are supposed to guide you and not mask your way, except if you let them. So, don't let them. CONCLUSION. Failing at anytime in life is expected to happen. However, if you handle the situation correctly, this setback is bound to arm you and pave the way against any future failure. It does not matter that you fail, or even how many times you've done that. What is important is whether you rise up again after the failure. Do not pretend that you are not hurt or try to push it forcefully behind you, rather accept the situation, learn from it and face the future with renewed vigor and resolve. Your resilience, determination and the experience you have acquired from previous failures will definitely see you through. So, never let up on anything that will secure your future happiness and well being.
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